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“The cornerstone of every nutritious” relationship is trust. This has to be established early in the relationship if it is to last. But sometimes, just sometimes, even though you hope that your partner’s past experiences won’t stop them from trusting you because you are different, they just do. Every individual comes with baggage, and your partner might not be different. The thought of letting someone in who could potentially cause as much harm and damage as the last person did is absolutely terrifying, especially if there’s an actual connection. Things get real quick, and fear kicks in. Emotional walls are sometimes impossible to scale. And guess what, this is just because of fear; this is someone who has seen things falling apart, more than often good things. It is only natural. Here are seven things that might help you out while trying to figure out a partner who comes with emotional baggage like that: 1. THEY WILL BE UNWILLING TO COMPROMISE Taking the first st...

WHAT IS LOVE? As a human race, we have been stumbling on the definition and pursuit of love, for absolute ages. Yet, none of us seem to have a clue about where to find it. There are online dating sites, and offline apps. There are various concepts being thrown to the wind. But what does it really mean to feel this emotion of love? 1. ROMANTIC LOVE. This is the one that gives you butterflies in your stomach; one that makes you believe in sunsets and happily-ever-afters. You feel so drawn to this person who holds the world in the cup of their hands. 2. THE DESIRE TO MERGE. As cheesy as this sounds, when two worlds collide, they often turn into one inclusive space. In the course of knowing each other, and co-habiting, you’ll realize that you’ve taken up similar patterns, likes, and dislikes. You will gradually rub off on each other, and that’s a beautiful process to witness. 3. IT’S US AGAINST THE WORLD. You are one team. There is nothing that can beat you ...

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.” We are all looking for “the one” at some point in our lives and not mincing words, it is a tough job. Sometimes you meet the wrong people at the right time or the right people at the wrong time. But do we give up?  No, we definitely don’t. Falling for and being with someone you love is one of the most wholesome experiences in life and is definitely worth every trial and tribulation that comes your way. This  soulmate/twin flame  or whatever label you wish to put, will make their presence felt once you meet them. There can be no mistake… there will be hard times with no doubt, but when you meet the one, and it feels like he/she is the one since the very beginning, you just know you have found them. This list will help you recognise them when the time comes. HER...

Being in a one-sided relationship can be painful. It is important to be frank with yourself if you feel like you’re in love with someone who doesn’t reciprocate. The person might say they love you but the signs showing that something is lacking aren’t that hard to miss. Not to say that they don’t care about you at all, but emotions can be misleading and an infatuation or just a deep liking is often mistaken for ‘love’. Love might develop over time, but if you don’t feel it sprouting and things changing, maybe it’s not worth holding on to. Despite everything Hollywood and every romantic comedy you’ve ever seen suggests, love isn’t just about the fluttering butterflies and the romance. As any couple who has been past the honeymoon phase will agree, love is more than that. It requires commitment and a sense of duty, being there for your beloved at the best and worst of times, making their presence and support felt when it counts. Watch out for these signs if you feel like ...

“A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace.”  – Thomas Moore Your soul mate could be anyone, your friend, parent, teacher, sibling, partner. In Elizabeth Gilbert’s words, having a soul sister in like a  “mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.” The relationship is based on connection. The bond you share with your soul sister is unique and cannot be compared with anything else! Is it not great that you know there is someone to whom you can bare your soul without the fear of being judged? Or someone who’ll not think twice before trusting you? Here are 8 signs that you have found this treasure: 1. YOU UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF CONSISTENCY In our busy lives we fail to communicate consistentl...

Every human, starting since their childhood, has been led to in fairy tales of perfect love! There is always some sort of big troubles they go through before their journey finally leads them to one another and they live happily ever after! We, too, try to visualize some similar situations for our lives. That all of our rejections, dead-end relationships, hurts and heartbreaks will hopefully lead us to the perfect love that has been destined for us! Then, how come that since all of us are in love with the idea of the perfect love, relationships fail, partners cheat after being years and years in a great relationship and the divorce rate is higher than ever? Jed Diamond , a marriage counselor, has been working with couples for 40 years and over the course of that period, he has found out that all relationships have 5 stages, but most couples tend to get stuck at stage 3. This is because stage 3 seems like an end to the journey. But it really is not! And giving up at...

All of us are running after our chance at love. For ages, we have all believed that it’s the only thing that could save our soul. We have sky-high dreams, and an elaborate imagination about what our perfect romance would be like. However, in order to find your ‘one true love’, you must be ready to accept these 10 essential truths: 1. TO FIND THE RIGHT PERSON, YOU NEED TO BE THE RIGHT PERSON None of us are perfect. Be the kind of person you would want to end up with. If you’re looking for somebody who is kind, be compassionate towards others. If you’re looking for one who is clear-headed about their career, get your life into order. You cannot take everything for granted, and expect to simply stumble upon Prince Charming, right out of the blue. 2. KNOW YOUR BOUNDARIES Know where to start and stop. Do not give your partner a hard time over hanging out with their friends. They have a life beyond this relationship. Recognize and accept it. Make a list of all t...

In this day and age, there has been an amazing influx of women entering fields previously dominated by men and beating them at their own games. And at the same time, there has been, in general, a trend of greater independence in women’s lives. Even though the number of single moms has increased, that doesn’t mean that they don’t have a lot in common to a married woman with a career, as both type of mothers have shown to do equally well in balancing motherhood and a good career. And yes, women have successfully done both but this new research has revealed how the role of the father in bringing up a child, especially a daughter, is particularly crucial. Having a father has been previously related exclusively to financial and social security. In today’s society, this is a wrong assumption as mothers are achieving new heights every day. But this new research has shown how growing up with a father around can be instrumental to a daughter’s emotional development. WHY ...