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Empath:  From  ‘empathy’ . Someone who can sense the emotional state of another individual and more than often can feel the others’ pain as well. Narcissist:  From the Greek  ‘Narcissus’ . An individual obsessed with himself/herself to a bad degree. These are, as you might have guessed, two opposing ends of the personality spectrum; where empaths are selfless to a spiritual level, feeling the same pain and discomfort watching someone else suffer (unlike sympathy which brings its fair share of patronising with it), narcissists fail to see anything besides themselves; which in most cases is because of certain past experiences which left them with a sense of being under-appreciated and turned them to be seekers of validation and admiration from others. Now as you can see there is a very simple demand-supply duality here; Empaths want to save people from their demons, it’s just the way they are, and Narcissists want more and more validation. The former i...

Do you want to impress your future boss, your date, a friend or anyone for that matter? You want to make a great deal out of that first impression because as the saying goes, first impression is the last impression. Now a research done on what is known as impression management says that people are  “quite skilled at presenting themselves to others in a positive light.”  Follows these 4 things  if you really want to make others see you in a positive light: 1. TOO MUCH PRIDE If you are someone who believes in ostentatious behavior then you should know that such a thing doesn’t make a good impression on others. You might think that your haughty attitude will make you look good in front of others but actually it creates a negative impression in their minds. If you indulge in self-enhancing practices by degrading others, it creates hostility in others. If you indulge in self-enhancing practices with the right kind of outlook, then it may be recei...

We all have our moments when we are suddenly not sure about the person we are dating or want to date. There are feelings of doubt, insecurity, hesitance and the tendency of self-preservation kicks in soon. If we keep thinking along the lines of these points then there is a strong chance of us losing that person. So what are we supposed to do if we think that he or she might be the right one for us? There are many things that determine whether a relationship will work or not. “Compatibility is a process, not a checklist”  is something that grabbed my attention recently. Obviously you should not settle for anything and everything. You should realize that as you talk to someone ( the  one), you don’t care about the things you thought mattered a lot back then. Here are some of those things: 1. TIMING This is the most severe thing about relationships. If you get a dollar for every time someone says that the timing wasn’t right, you could actually own an entire contine...

Mind you, there are other things too. Just saying. Now fasten your cheesebelts, here comes the cheese. Oh wait, seatbelts. 1. HE IS PROTECTIVE OF YOU Ever seen him holding the umbrella above your head when it’s too sunny/rainy outside? Or heard him leave you texts like  “Carry your water bottle, it’s so hot out”? There you have it. 2. HE IS PROUD OF YOU AND IS PROUD OF HIMSELF FOR GETTING TO BE WITH YOU Your achievements are never your own. And you are his medal, a culmination of a lifetime of possibly bad dating choices, finally ending in the meeting with you. 3. ROMANCE IS ALWAYS ON HIS MIND He is not there to get into your pants. At least not just. There is a connection that makes you a part of his day-to-day life and we all know the magic lies in the mundane. 4. HE WILL GO OUT OF HIS WAY When in a dilemma of choice, he will choose being with you than whatever activity he had planned out for himself. Always. 5. SURPRISE! He will try and surp...

When we are in a relationship, especially a long one, we lose sight of the fact that it might not be exactly a happy one. Since we have been with this person for a long time, being with them becomes a habit, rather than a fulfilling companionship. There is more bitterness between you two rather than love and you forget to put yourself first. However, you are so tangled in this relationship that it seems easier to deal with the arguments and fights than losing the person completely. It is okay to distance yourself from a poisonous relationship. It is important to think about your mental and emotional stability and let go of this attachment that only causes you harm. Initially, it might seem impossible but with time you will realize that it was an important step you just had to take for your own sake. 1. PASSIVE AGGRESSION In a healthy relationship, it is important to deal with problems directly rather than keeping it bottled up and just seething with an...

The idea borders on outrageous and therefore a  very small part of the American population (8%)  sleeps naked, but it is mostly because we are unaware of the multiple benefits of sleeping naked. To help you adapt a healthier lifestyle, here are 10 advantages of going au naturale when you sleep, approved by science! 1. HELPS INSOMNIA For you to fall asleep there has to be a drop in your body temperature, which is done by your body, as it pushes out the heat from the core. This is sometimes difficult when you wear your nightclothes, and leads to sleeplessness. Sleeping naked allows your body to function naturally and  fix problems like insomnia ,  assuring a good night’s sleep. 2. LONGER, DEEPER SLEEP Your naked body temperature in your bed is considerably lower than your surroundings, which directly contributes to a deeper and longer sleep.  A Dutch study  actually found that placing thermo suits on people lowers their body temperature an...

Depression:  ( major depressive disorder or clinical depression )  is a common but serious mood disorder. It causes severe symptoms that affect how you feel, think, and handle daily activities, such as sleeping, eating, or working. To be diagnosed with depression, the symptoms must be present for at least two weeks. It’s taken the form of a serious epidemic and things are looking bleaker as we lose further touch with ourselves in this age of digital exposure and complete lack of privacy. One has thousands of Facebook friends and millions of Instagram followers, but not one to talk to, to tell them yes, you are loved, you don’t have to do this alone. And worse, there are people around who will trivialise your condition and ask you to “suck it up”. Thing is, the problem is so subjective and particular that it is indeed hard to understand just what that dreaded word stands for. Here we have tried to distill some essential things about what you might be feeling...

They say the truth when they say that a sane, sound mind that is strong and driven is what you need in order to reach your goals. A healthy body is of big importance too, but it does not suffice for a strong and determined mind. Now, we are all fighting our own battles and are not always in the right state of mind or strong all the time. This might be because of some negative and unhealthy habits you are holding on to, because sometimes, bad habits are hard to let go of. In order to let go of these bad habits, one must recognize them first. Following is a list of bad habits that you must let go to of to move forward and become more mentally strong! 1. STOP FOCUSING ONLY ON THE NEGATIVE It is no mystery that most of us, as humans, have the tendency to stress over and focus on the negativity; it is easy, after all. It is absolutely necessary for you to first learn to let go of all the negativity and try to find the positive and focus on it even in the little things that s...