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Conversations with arrogant individuals are experiences we all go through, quite frequently in life, probably because they are a very common ‘species’. They exhibit certain irritating characteristics which make the aforementioned encounters particularly painful at times. The factor that mainly causes such obnoxious behaviour is a very strong sense of entitlement that makes them expect very good behaviour from others and special privileges without having done anything to deserve it. What is even more disturbing is that they will not show any empathy to others whereas expect that along with admiration. Handling verbal interactions with such individuals is tricky, but here are eight strong comebacks to their arrogance that can stop them in their tracks. 1. “NOW WHAT MAKES YOU SAY THAT?” This is very interesting, since it is a direct enquiry into the reason for their behaviour. Now, of course arrogance borders on irrationality, and by asking the reason behind it you do...

I have spent many years as a marriage counselor, working with people and navigating them through tricky relationship crisis. Having seen various complicated situations in marriages, there is one simple yet dangerous truth that most men fail to notice – that no matter how hard it is women will leave men even if they’ve loved them deeply. It’s not that they stop loving them. It is a terrible thing for them which breaks their heart. It’s not easy for them to leave the man they fell in love with- man they had kids with; Man they decided to share a home and life with. Believe me… it takes all the courage they can muster which finally makes them leave; not forgetting the resources they have to rally together. There are many reasons behind this, but one reason that I’ve seen most often is what I’m going to talk about here. Presence.  You read that right. Women leave when their man is no longer present actively. He may be working, gaming, fishing or sailing – it could be an...

The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.  – Christopher McCandless In this huge world, nothing is purely a coincidence. Every person you meet plays a part in your life, howsoever small that may be. Altogether, they all serve a far bigger purpose that we are not able see initially. This is a phenomenon that can’t be explained easily. It occurs every day till in our lifetime. It may sound cliché, but everything does happen for a reason, a reason that cannot be explained with the help of science or any other philosophy. As long as we live, we meet a variety of people. If you’re lucky, you’ll meet people from completely different backgrounds. Such people always have something new to teach us and they unconsciously add something to our personal growth. Some of them remain with us until the end, making a huge differe...

Toxic relationships are the scariest relationships you can be in. There is the element of abuse in it, but you can’t seem to do to anything about it since there’s always ‘a tiny’ hope in you that things will get better. You know you are suffering, but you are connected with the person so deeply that moving away will hurt you. The dilemma of a toxic relationship can only be solved by taking bold steps. You have to decide for once whether you want to stay with your partner and  really  work it out or not. How do you deal after walking away from a toxic relationship? What happens when you meet someone else who proves to be healthier for you? You might push him away because he is not what you are used to. But he might be everything you need. Here’s a list of 10 things that happen when you meet such a guy: 1. YOU EXPECT THE WORST You just got out of a toxic relationship so you think: “what good this guy can bring in my life?” You expect the worst from him ...

1. MAKING EXCUSES You cannot make excuses  all  the time when you are in a relationship. A strong woman will accept apologies but she will walk away if you make it a habit. 2. UNCERTAINTY OR FLAKINESS If you are always cancelling plans at the last moment when she is dressed and ready to go, it reflects on your unreliable character. If you promise her something then make sure to follow it up because she will be your past. 3. BEING DISRESPECTFUL Strong women respect themselves. If you are continually being disrespectful to her then she will not bear it. They will not tolerate being demeaned or patronized in any condition. If you love her then you should respect her and treat her well. 4. CONTROL ISSUES Strong women are their own masters. They don’t need you telling them what to do, what to wear, eat or whom to be friends with. If you’re doing this then she will not tolerate it at any cost. You need to let her exercise her freedom. She is not yours...

When we say loner, what thought comes to your mind? A negative one, I’m sure. The thoughts associated with anyone who is a loner are apparently not good ones because being alone is seen as something of a challenge to the spirit of a community. Someone who doesn’t conform to the society’s rule of companionship and harmony, someone who willingly dissects from the group, or someone who is happy on his/her own is what we see as a loner. People have long associated psycho killer tendencies with a loner. Remember all those Hollywood thrillers? However bad their reputation might seem, loners are beautiful people who love to stay by themselves and do what they love doing. Here is a list of nine things that only a loner can understand: 1. KEEN SENSE OF OBSERVATION Even though loners do not participate in any social event, they will be there to observe what goes around. Loners like to watch people and they can figure what the other person is about just by his/her way of talki...