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“I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.”  ―  Haruki Murakami ,   South of the Border, West of the Sun Being with someone just for the sake of it is different than being with someone with full mental, physical and emotional presence. People become complacent once the relationship settles down and the initial honeymoon phase is over. They start taking their partners for granted which can be very frustrating. The regret that comes later when the relationship breaks down is soul-crushing. You would think how smart, sexy, beautiful your woman was but you didn’t pay enough attention to her. You loved her, you lived with her and you wanted to be with her but things didn’t work ou...

Deep thinkers might be known for being anxious and worried, but there are many positive qualities that they possess which are also beneficial for others. They are the people who actually think before speaking or acting. They do not engage in meaningless chatter with unimportant people. If you know someone who is a deep thinker or if you are one, then you might be able to relate  with the qualities listed  below: 1. INTROVERSION Deeps thinkers are characterized by being quiet, reserved and introverted. They like to be with themselves rather than socialize with people. According to  a study ,  introverts naturally have high cortisol arousal which means that that their ability to process information is greater than an average extrovert. That is why they try to avoid too many people and places with loud noises. 2. THEY ARE ABOUT EXPERIENCES! A deep thinker analyses the experiences from his past and utilizes them for his/her present. They make links be...

It isn’t easy to accept, but, I was once a mistress to a married man. Everyone I talked to about this advised me to keep quiet about it to avoid relentless judgement and name calling, but I don’t think I would want to keep this part of my life a secret as even if it is not morally upright, it was a pretty significant part of my life. This article is an attempt to  share my experience  as the other woman that serves as a life lesson today. 1. SOMETIMES, YOU GO AGAINST YOUR VALUES I met this man at a business event and somehow one thing led to another and we ended up becoming lovers. I had initially found him good looking and was mildly saddened by the glittery wedding ring I noticed on his finger. I tried my absolute best to maintain a distance from him but given my vulnerability at that particular time,  owing to my recent divorce ,  I said yes when he asked me out. I had gone against my values but I didn’t feel like I had a choice anymore as I co...

Life is tough, but so are you! Change is the only thing constant in our lives. No matter how hard it gets you must change in order to grow. If one continues to hold on to their rigid ideologies, one day, they will stop fitting into this ever-changing puzzle. Here are  twenty six ways you can re-claim your life : #1: Get fit. A healthy body breeds a healthy mind. #2: Travel. It doesn’t have to be elaborate and luxurious. Just a weekend getaway, or shifting to a new place. #3: Think about the present most, the future next, and the past the least. As Alfred mentioned, we only fall so we can learn to rise up again. Don’t beat yourself up over past mistakes. Forgive yourself, move on. #4: Meet new people. New meetings lead to revealing new horizons. Some people will change the way you see life, and sometimes, a different pair of specs is all you need. #5: Be open and honest. Be spontaneous. Life is too short to live by a guidebook. #6: Be cogniza...